Tuesday 17 December 2013

Jades daily rant- Slut shaming

ALRIGHTY.

ever been called a slut?  yep.

I think every woman at some point has been called a slut. Its just standard now, when you're mad at a girl, or you dislike a girl, or you just got dumped by a girl, or you're jealous of a girl. Or anything involving another woman. Isn't it ironic that slut shaming only happens to women? Its very rare that a man is questioned about his sexuality and sexual promiscuity, men are generally considered more superior the more women they sleep with.
So when I speak of slut shaming, I'm speaking of a situation where a women is called a slut for whatever reason, or physically mentally or emotionally abused under the pretenses of 'being a slut'.  When I talk about slut shaming, I'm talking about how slut shaming no matter what the situation is wrong.

Slut by definition is a woman who has many casual sexual partners. So what does this mean? well that the term 'slut' is frequently misused. Many women are called sluts without prior knowledge of their sex lives. In todays society many teenage girls are called sluts, purely for just having had sex or participating in sexual acts. Many women are called sluts for liking sex or masturbation. These are clear incorrect uses of the word. But the term slut is incorrect in itself and shows what a male dominated world we live in. Do you know any words like that referring to men? I don't.

Women shouldn't be singled out for whatever they decide to do in private and nor should a word with such a meaning be thrown around carelessly.

Girl on Girl hate has defiantly encouraged the use of the term, women aren't supportive of other women today and like to put other women down. This needs to change, calling a girl a slut just encourages the use of the word and makes it ok for men to call you it.

Rapists Rape, Women don't ask for Rape.

So is it acceptable to call a woman a slut based on what she wears, Is it ok for a woman to be raped based on what she wears? No. contrary to popular belief, Rapist are responsible for rape, women do not ask to be raped. Sure we can say all we want that its just common sense to not be drunk down an alley at night in a body con dress, but this just provides fuel to the stigma. Living with the belief just makes it ok, and it isnt. So a woman is not a slut because of what she wears. This would be like saying a woman is a prude for not having her cleavage out or liking tight clothes. Clothes are about personal style, creativity and taste, not about sexuality, wearing a tight top doesn't mean you like sex, and wearing baggy shapeless trousers doesn't mean you dont.
So a woman wearing tight clothes isn't asking for rape anymore than a woman wearing a burqa.

Slut Shaming isn't ok.
The first time I used the word slut to refer to another girl I was 10. The first time I was called a slut I was 10. Neither of these times were ok. There is never a time when It's ok. No matter what a woman is or isn't do is or isn't wearing slut shaming isn't ok. So keep your opinions of other women to yourself. Sex is a private thing and none of your god damn business.


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